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"If you have the will to change...
we have a way..." Personal & relationship issues are the seeds of human growthThank you for coming along and welcome to theprocess. Yes "theprocess" pronounced as one word. The term coined by the participants of the ongoing growth groups. The What Theprocess is a unique personal growth and development practice. We have been underway for close to twenty five years and have developed a unique foundation for individual and relationship growth and change. Individuals, couples and families attend individual sessions, and or ongoing growth groups and or weekend to week-long retreats to connect with themselves and grow their core strengths. Ongoing growth work evolves an expanded awareness of oneself, others and life. In reality most people can change pretty much anything they wish to if they are willing to grow. (see depression presentation) The Big Picture - a different point of view Theprocess could be described as a holistic energy. We warm up to the emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual (philosphical not religious) basis of life. To change you need to grow the ways you are in the world. This seems self evident but in today's world it is clouded in media and industrial reality. We are bombarded by industrially sponsored messages that attribute human experience and behaviour to genetic and or medical factors such as psychological disorders, disease and illness. This industrial point of view dominates todays world about human experience and experiential presentations. The truth is there are other powerful ways to see and relate your reactions, habits and embedded personality patterns. The sickness model is not the only way or most useful way to see or to relate to your experiential life. Maybe being depressed, anxious, unhappy, angry, lost is not a medical issue... The reality is there is very little you cannot change about yourself if you have the will, a growth attitude and a willingness to growth work. Many presentations such as feeling depressed, anxious, angry, guilty or addictive patterns are relatively simple to evolve. The current medical industrial approach to human behaviour and experience attributes life issues to out of balance neurotransmitters and/or genetic traits. The industrial response almost always involves a patented medicine, a pill, some form of medication to alleviate symptoms. No pill will alleviate or address the deeper cause. Perhaps an intelligent and healthy question is to wonder why are you really feeling depressed, or angry, or anxious, or why do you crave foods, or drugs, or alcohol, or gambling, or the internet, or sex. It is unlikely the totality of human experience over millions of years of human evolution be rendered down to single factors benefitting the earths most profitable industry. Human beings, as with most of nature, continue to evolve. The same capacities which are instrumental in evolution are foundational to personal change and growth. Change and growth is the basis of existence. If you have the will we have a way. If you want to change, are committed to change, are willing to do the work to change, you will change. And if you do not do the work the same underlying experiential structures will continue to be expressed in the same or different ways. Note for example those who give up smoking, it is well known many often to go on to eat obsessively and develop weight issues. With out addressing the deeper causes of what makes people smoke, simple smoking behaviour cessation is often not enough. If you are curious or serious about change for yourself or your relationships we are worth considering. You can call Harris Brown or Nigel Aldridge to discuss your situation. We really are worth a chat. The Who The individuals that warm up to our approach are people who typically have some sense of wonder about life or may feel they have had enough of reactions, feelings, states of being or certain personality patterns. We do not have answers, there are no answers to life, however, we do have processes that can be employed to free you from your mind, your emotions, your addictions and the patterns that may dominate your life. This is what we call growth. Growth is sustained personal evolution. Personal evolution is to grow beyond your reactions to being able to warm up to who you actually are, to think the thoughts you decide to think, to experience the feelings that are true to your real values, and to act in ways true to you in your world. We work with all types of occupations and people. Currently business people of all business sizes one to five hundred employee's, doctors, lawyers, barristers and barrista's, IT specialists, salespeople, brokers, builders, teachers, panel beaters, engineers civil and construction, mechanics, electricians, nurses, caregivers, retailers, machinery drivers, farmers, mothers, fathers, counsellors, lecturers, artists, hairdressers, landscapers, musicians, politicians... The Why People come to us when the cost of reamaining the same is too great. We have many success stories here at theprocess. From life threatening addictions like drugs and alcohol, to sex, or money, or status or what ever people use to avoid or cope with inner experience. People present mostly because; there relationships are not working and or a partner has moved away, because they are anxious and fearfull, life has no meaning, they are angry, feeling low and depressed. We work with every presentation including obsessive compulsive behaviours, from trauma to existential crisis of identity, deep emotional pain, deep feelings of aloneness, unworthiness, feelings of being disconnected from life. You name it we have worked with it and usually most successfully. If you really want to change some thing about yourself you will you just need to the work. For most people the main source of growth in their life is personal relationships. Particularly intimate or close-natured relationships. It is within these relationships that our personal issues get activated. Some people see these reactions as problems. We do not, we see your reactions and issues as a personal map of what you need to develop. In addressing your reactions and personality you will evolve and grow. You will develop awareness of yourself, others and life. Your reactions and over developed personality patterns can be viewed as your psyche insisting that you evolve. They are not unchangeable givens in who you are. Human beings are the most adaptive species ever to grace the earth to date. By birthright we are developementally geared to evolve. We are not static hopeless carriers of fixed problems, disorders or other issues. The Reality We are not a business. We are not here to profit from anyone's disharmony. Our fees and charges reflect the real cost of providing our service. It costs a great deal to provide anything real in today's world as anyone who lives in the real economy will attest. None of our relationships are based in money and we do our level best to make our processes available to those who are motivated. We are often asked if we do ACC, EAP or other forms of subsidised work. The short answer is no. We do not seek to attract third party funders. In our professional experience if you do not fund your own growth work it is unlikely you will demonstrate enough ownership of your own progress. We know of practitioners who have one to three clients no shows per day when working with principally government third party funders. . We get nil, none, no show sessions in a year! Third party are attached to short term symptomatic resolution. Real growth work is an ongoing process. Your entire life is a growth process wether you know it or not. Every day you are in a position to make decisions about all manner of things. Every decision you make grows some thing in you and furthers you in a direction. What you focus upon expands. Growth relationships are life and almost all deeper cultures have a knowing about living and learning about life. It seems in the west you are simply expected to know how to be in the world, with little to no life training or ongoing developement. And when we do not know we are told the way we should be to be normal. The How The core of theprocess is growth relationships. The principal relationship are one to one sessions. For those really ready to evolve then the ongoing growth groups and workshops are a very powerful vehicle of growth. The growth groups offer the sincere individual or couple a truly meaningfull and deep proven vehicle for life enhancement and relationship betterment. The how for men The men's growth process is in its twenty second year and has a highly committed following. If you are a guy who has interest in life beyond being a bloke then the men's process is an entertaining, expanding, sometimes challenging and always rewarding forum to be a part of. Men from every walk of life are represented in the men's process. The mens process is not a mens group about being a man. Its about being a person. Its about connecting with you and what you actually are as a person, a human being. You will be far happier in your life when you feel comfortable being who you actually are. The how for women The women's process is a powerfull motivated group of women who wish to evolve into fearless non egoic beings, able to reperesent themselves fully in every aspect of there lives. If you feel on the back foot in your life or would like to be a better mother, partner or person the women's growth group can provide a vehicle to strengthening who and what you really are. The ongoing groups form the basis of a growth community unique to theprocess. The More... As a community of people we are also curious about broader health and well being. To this end, as a collective we have learned a great deal about real nutrition and its impact on the body, the mind and on your life. For example, do you know the role alkalinity plays in your health? Its impact is vital and largely unheard of. So if your are curious about you in your life give us a call and have a chat... _The faces_
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